I suppose it would be kind to leave a warning here before you start. Many, if not all, of the links (and pictures) in this series of posts are totally NSFW. If you want to have a look, do, by all means, but don’t be surprised if you find naked boy bits at the other end . . . or girl bits.
Happy? Let’s go.
This is another interesting aspect in which my knowledge is limited. In my reading around and questioning folk, I’ve discovered, as ever, that there are dozens upon dozens of different aspects to humiliation and degradation.
Like other activities under the BDSM umbrella, humiliation is deeply personal, as folk can feel belittled and/or humiliated by a variety of different things. For some, it is name calling or clothing designing to highlight/accentuate physical features a person may not be proud of. For others, the act of taking orders can be hugely humiliating, particularly if they are proud people outside of BDSM. Certain sexual activities can be degrading too; forced oral activities or a specific sexual position may serve to demean, humiliate or degrade a person while they experience pleasure.
There are all sorts of reasons why a person may find this pleasurable and a plethora of blog and articles covering the same discussions again and again and again (and again!). The answers you get depend on a great deal on the sort of site you visit and the people you speak to.
A number of my internet searches turned up sites that discuss SM and the desire for it as a severe mental disorder. However in speaking with people across various blogs and forums, I’ve learned that they don’t see it as such. It is simply another facet of the loving and caring relationship they share with their partner and/or top (remember, not all of these relationships are monogamous and they aren’t necessarily romantic either).
Personally, I believe, for some, there may well be past/childhood traumas worked through by practising SM (or any part of BDSM) but this is not the norm. For some, it really is just their personal kink, but of the beautiful tapestry of likes and dislikes that makes us all different.
~Complete an additional proof on Episode Four (Resistance) and upload
Right. Well, if I really want to complete Saar’s Legacy by May/June time, I guess I really should get started on those deep edits. Looking back at the notes I made in December, I know I have a lot to get through, I just haven’t decided if I’ll be working in hard copy or digital. It’s a deep decision as it affects how I write, but I’ll spend sometime figuring that out before I start. Basically, I need to get a wiggle on.
If you’re new to the blog (you poor dears) I’ll explain that I like vampires. A lot. I can’t think of any significant novel/novella length story that didn’t feature them in some way or another. I adore the creatures and everything about them. It’s the concept that I enjoy the most. So, I go out of my way to include vampires in as much of my writing as possible.
But the differences aren’t just in my writings. These fanged creatures of the night come in so many flavours, that, at times, it’s hard to point and say ‘this is, in fact, a vampire.’ Hollywood takes as many liberties with them as writers do and I can’t think of another fantasy creature that allows such treatment.
15 minutes a day. Just 15. Sometimes more if I’m on a role, but I’m working in 15 minute sprints, against Ileandra who is doing the same. Then the rest of the time we have each day is devoted to editing and admin.
Writing: A Conversation Without Interruptions 