I suppose it would be kind to leave a warning here before you start. Many, if not all, of the links (and pictures) in this series of posts are totally NSFW. If you want to have a look, do, by all means, but don’t be surprised if you find naked boy bits at the other end . . . or girl bits.
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Last week I talked about punishing naughty submissives. But, the D in BDSM also includes rewards. After all, how is your submissive going to know they’re doing a good job unless you reward them?

As with every other part of the lifestyle I’ve discussed, rewards can and do vary greatly. They depend on the individual, circumstances and personal preferences.

But . . . ! Here are some examples I know of that many, if not all Dominants may use at one point or another.

Play Time

Crack out the toys, it’s time to play! Vibrators, massager, fun gels and tingly liquids, all these things might be something a submissive enjoys and that might be given to them as a gift for a job well done. Among the list of ‘play things’ also come other playmates. Including another man or woman in play may be just the sort of thing a submissive likes: someone to play with (or on) as a reward.

Cuddle Time

Everyone likes a good cuddle, right (I do!), but sometimes there just isn’t time for this within a scene. After care is a big part of any BDSM lifestyle and while cuddling a weary or well used submissive might just be the next step in looking after them, who can deny the pleasure gleaned from a good ‘well done’ hug?

Pleasure

Lots and lots of it. Physical pleasure is often used as a tool and no less as a reward. Whatever it is a sub likes best, whatever sends them spinning off into ecstasy-land, that might be one of the items in a Dominant’s arsenal to reward a good job.

Physical Treats

This may sound a little like ‘paying for services’ but I’ve heard tell of Dominants buying new collars for submissive who please them. A piece of jewellery, a particular food, a book, a DVD, it can anything at all.

‘Well Done Pet’

Sometimes the only thing needed is acknowledgement of a job well done. I know I get a glow when the Funk Master thanks me for dinner or notices the washing up. I’m sure it’s no different to a submissive. A ‘thank you,’ a ‘good body/girl’ or a ‘well done’, all of these things can be rewards and are often used as such.

This list could keep going. Never mind all the other gubbins such as spanking, pain, bondage and forced pleasure. Yes, I do recall these things popped up in last week’s run down of punishments, but one man’s meat is another man’s poison. You’ve heard of that right? So it is with reward and discipline.

Some people may love a trip to Tate Modern after all. 😉