Last week was Bi Visibility Week, specifically focused on September 23.
I didn’t even know about this until the day itself. Somebody said something on Twitter that brought it to my attention and I was all ‘We have a day? When did that happen?’ Da Shared Brain then proceeded to change all of her FB imagery and I got into a debate about bi-hate at Pride events.
It’s never really been an issue for me before. I’m lucky enough that, outwardly, my romantic relationships are ‘traditional’ in that I’ve ended up with a man and I have two kids (put aside the age difference between us). I rarely have my sexuality questioned because when people see me with Dave, they assume I’m straight and that’s it. As a result being bisexual has never put me in awkward situations or lead me to have difficult conversations. It’s just a part of me. Like my love for cheese.
What I didn’t realise was how long this aspect of me has been part of me.
I ‘came out’ at the end of uni. It got a bit tricky always having to avert my eyes from a pretty woman I couldn’t help staring at and I felt uncomfortable with the general assumption I was going to end up with a man. Before that point I’d heard the word ‘bisexual’ but didn’t really twig what it meant. It just wasn’t important.
But some things did happen and I realised that my staring at other woman wasn’t just about being jealous of their lovely bodies. It was about fancying them and in some cases imagining relationships with them.
Yey me. Figuring it out was a bonus. Telling people who really didn’t care either way was a double bonus. Being told it ‘was just a phase’ only happened once and hasn’t come up again. Score.
But a few weeks back I started looking at some of my older writers. As far back as fifteen years. I would have been in secondary school, about fifteen years old and my stories then features several same sex relationships. They weren’t front and centre, but they were always there, forming background to whatever else was going on. I’d never noticed that before, or realised what it meant. I’m not sure that it means anything, only that I have always been open to the idea of varied sexual preferences and expressions of sexuality. Even as a teenager when I wasn’t exposed to it at all.
How did that happen? Where did it come from? How much has it influenced what I and Raven write at the moment, now that we’re grown ups and able to understand the feels that we couldn’t all those years ago?
I don’t know the answers to any of those questions. But it is very interesting to think about nonetheless.
This last week of September is incomplete but I’m going to write it up as normal anyway and save the month summary for next week. It’s a bit of a cheat (heh) but it does give me a smidge more time to catch up on those things I might have let slip.
Approach three peer blogs regarding guest posts.
*sings* Two out of three ain’t bad. Yes, two. And there will be more. This is something I’m going to give a lot more attention to. Two is a start, but I’d like to get around seven to do a weeks worth of blog hopping. I think that’s a fair number, right?
Write up small article for submission to Writing Magazine and/or Writer’s Forum about SORB
Done. Can’t send it yet because both want a picture of the cover art, but having it writing is a good start. The next step is easy.
Pick a story to submit somewhere
Done. Twice in fact. One piece of flash and a short story issued into the ether. It would be nice to come back with some positive responses, but we’ll see what happens after the judging.
Spend at least two nights NOT working and combine them with EITHER an early night or a CrossFit/Roller Derby workout*
Early nights. No skating as I’ve not been my best and I’ve also been away, but those early nights are really starting to do me a ton of good. Don’t know why I didn’t do this sooner!
It’s all about marketing this week. making a plan to let the world know SORB is on the way. Let’s see…
- Approach four more blogs regarding guest posts/interviews.
- Research poster opportunities in local stores/hangouts (library / city centre info desk / my various coffee shops / book stores)
- Check out BBC Radio Leicester for similar speaking opportunities
- Find a networking event to attend in the near future
- Get my Goodreads account working and check it at least twice in the week
- Outline plan for ‘subscriber zone‘ on this blog and on main website
- Spend at least two nights NOT working and combine them with EITHER an early night or a CrossFit/Roller Derby workout*
Seems like a lot, but I don’t think it is. A lot of this I can get done while out and about on the road with the boys and it shouldn’t take more effort than I normally spend going into these places and sitting down with a coffee. Just means speaking with the management (most of whom I’m on good terms with). As for the rest, it means using my time on the Internet for proper searching, rather than searching interspersed with Twitter chatter 😉
*I’m keeping this ‘non writing’ goal in because it’s a health thing and my health has a direct affect on what I’m able to achieve career wise.