Yesterday I talked about how funny sex is. I know some of you don’t believe me. I don’t care. I genuinely believe that if not for the necessity of keeping the human race going (and the fact that it’s fun), sex would have fizzled out long ago. Because it’s too funny to take seriously.The Smut With Brains brand isn’t about being super intelligent or high-and-mighty with my views. It’s about being real. I considered Smut With Heart, but that sounded cheesy. Smut With Real People, Emotions, Situations And Non-Porn-Style Sex was what I really wanted, but it was too long. So I settled for Smut With Brains. What that basically means is keeping it real.
I’m not talking writing memoirs of my sex life (you wouldn’t want to read that anyway), I mean acknowledging that real sex is about those things I talked about yesterday; pulled hair, cramps, falling off the bed, fumbling with toys, messy bedsheets, protection.
I’m a real believer in safe sex and I’m fascinated by the amount of erotica I read where there is no mention of any sort of protection. That bothers me because, while it’s ‘real’ it shouldn’t be the case. Particularly in some of these stories featuring one night stands, midnight encounters and threesomes. It’s not safe. And it’s certainly not respectful.
I don’t know if the current trend with erotica is to avoid these things because the ‘ruin the mood’ but I don’t like it. Just like none of my characters will ever scream ‘Ooooo yeah, I’m coming, aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!’ (-_-), my characters will also use protection. Because it’s real.
In addition, my characters won’t all have perfect hair, rail thin bodies (girls) and rippling muscles (men). Some will, because that’s what the world is likely, but, largely, they will be real. So they’ll have hair where they might not want hair, tubby bits, stretch marks, scars, tan lines, all out flab, spots, freckles, whatever. They will have all those things that real people have that often, from what I understand (*innocent face*) gets left out of porn.
I don’t know if I’m doing myself out of readers by writing this way, but to do anything else seems to cheat myself. Yes, I want to pay bills (eventually) with my writing, but I don’t want to do it by ‘selling out.’
Terrible phrase. It can mean so many things but in this instance, I mean that I want to write what’s true to me and in my heart, not what the market dictates I should.