Keeping It Real #AtoZChallenge #AprilA2Z ‘K’

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Yesterday I talked about how funny sex is. I know some of you don’t believe me. I don’t care. I genuinely believe that if not for the necessity of keeping the human race going (and the fact that it’s fun), sex would have fizzled out long ago. Because it’s too funny to take seriously.laughing faceThe Smut With Brains brand isn’t about being super intelligent or high-and-mighty with my views. It’s about being real. I considered Smut With Heart, but that sounded cheesy. Smut With Real People, Emotions, Situations And Non-Porn-Style Sex was what I really wanted, but it was too long. So I settled for Smut With Brains. What that basically means is keeping it real.

I’m not talking writing memoirs of my sex life (you wouldn’t want to read that anyway), I mean acknowledging that real sex is about those things I talked about yesterday; pulled hair, cramps, falling off the bed, fumbling with toys, messy bedsheets, protection.

I’m a real believer in safe sex and I’m fascinated by the amount of erotica I read where there is no mention of any sort of protection. That bothers me because, while it’s ‘real’ it shouldn’t be the case. Particularly in some of these stories featuring one night stands, midnight encounters and threesomes. It’s not safe. And it’s certainly not respectful.

I don’t know if the current trend with erotica is to avoid these things because the ‘ruin the mood’ but I don’t like it. Just like none of my characters will ever scream ‘Ooooo yeah, I’m coming, aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!’ (-_-), my characters will also use protection. Because it’s real.

In addition, my characters won’t all have perfect hair, rail thin bodies (girls) and rippling muscles (men). Some will, because that’s what the world is likely, but, largely, they will be real. So they’ll have hair where they might not want hair, tubby bits, stretch marks, scars, tan lines, all out flab, spots, freckles, whatever. They will have all those things that real people have that often, from what I understand (*innocent face*) gets left out of porn.

I don’t know if I’m doing myself out of readers by writing this way, but to do anything else seems to cheat myself. Yes, I want to pay bills (eventually) with my writing, but I don’t want to do it by ‘selling out.’
Terrible phrase. It can mean so many things but in this instance, I mean that I want to write what’s true to me and in my heart, not what the market dictates I should.

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About Raven ShadowHawk

I take great pleasure in writing erotica and am merely one side of the proverbial coin. My other half, 'Ileandra Young' writes fantasy and the occasional comedy piece. My six-part series 'Meeting Each Other' is available in full, through Amazon and Smashwords while my debut novella 'Sugar Dust' is now re-released (!) available through Amazon via Little Vamp Press.
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7 Responses to Keeping It Real #AtoZChallenge #AprilA2Z ‘K’

  1. Hi Ileandra,
    I SO appreciate what you’re saying here. The protagonist in the women’s fiction book I’m working on wears long-tailed shirts that cover her butt, as she gained ten pounds with each kid. I also believe in birth control, and so do my characters! I’m not really all that interested in unrealistic sex scenes tied together by the thinnest of plots. Character intrigues me. I want a little more depth and believability–someone I can identify with, and maybe not knowing exactly what is going to happen scene by scene. When I say believability, I am willing to believe in vampires and superheroes and dragons. But I want real characters, with flaws and quirks and brains.


    • Hehee, believability cuts many different ways, doesn’t it? Funny how talk of werewolves, flying men, mermaids and lord knows what else, is so much more believable when the characters involved are true 3D creations.

      I suppose if you just want a quick fix, then there’s no need for plot o.O but to call something a ‘story’ there really should be one. Even if it is just a tangle of sex.


  2. saxtoncorner says:

    I totally agree with you on this. Why leave out the safety part of the sex scene? It drives me insane. You’ll be able to pay your bills through writing, as you’ll get promos from all the condom market. Ha ha ha. It’s about time there was a bit more than ripped abs, heaving bosoms and “oh my”‘s out there.I also agree with Naomi’s comment above that while we want vampires and other supernatural twists, we want the sex to be what sex actually is; funny, gross, awkward and fabulous!


    • Bw ha ha ahhaaa, I should contact Durex and see if they’re willing to sponsor me! :p It would be easy to name drop them in some of the pieces I write.

      In fact, at the conference I went to one man suggested I contact some of the manufacturers/sellers of toys and tools I mentioned as I could get them in on board too. 😉

      The fact that you guys agree (thanks by the way) as do others I’ve spoken to, makes me wonder how the porn industry has flourished quite so much. Or why it isn’t changing (that I can see).
      Books are, for sure, but with the recent boom of ‘monster sex’ in erotica books, I’ve no idea how safety can be a factor. How do you really fit a condom and a dinosaur? And will a Minotaur really know how to use a dental dam? o.O


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