I suppose it would be kind to leave a warning here before you start. Many, if not all, of the links in this series of posts are totally NSFW. If you want to have a look, do, by all means, but don’t be surprised if you find naked boy bits at the other end . . . or girl bits.
Happy? Let’s go.

Probably my favourite part of the BDSM acronym is dominance and submission. All of my erotic writings that involve BDSM in any way are based around the D/s (or DS) dynamic and I love the psychology that goes along with it.

For the purposes of this post (and others on this topic) I talk about a hypothetical D/s coupling in which the ‘D’ (dominant) is male and the ‘s’ (submissive) is female. Note that I know full well that this is NOT the only way it works and that there are dozens of variations on this. But . . . for the purpose of not throwing confusing pronouns all over the place, this is how I plan to proceed.

In a D/s relationship the Dominant is the one who controls the submissive. This can be confined simply to sexual encounters, but sometimes extends beyond the bedroom. In these relationships the submissive is expected to follow the rules and guidelines set out by their dominant in the knowledge that disobedience may result in punishment and/or correction.

D/s relationships vary in intensity, ranging from those confined to the bedroom, to those in which the control aspect is present in every day situations. This can include picking what to eat, what to wear, or even how to style one’s hair. The level of control depends wholly on the needs of both the dominant and the submissive and the agreement they have between themselves.

I guess . . . it’s difficult to cover this topic in any way without referring to those books. I’ve talked about those books many times across the blog and my rants range from tight and tidy, to half-crazed, nonsensical babble with a healthy dose of rage. I’m not going to do that here, but I am going to talk about those books if only because they do have a place here.

Since my fascination with this aspect of BDSM is so strong, I expect this section of the series to go on for many parts. I’ll try to keep posts below the 500 word mark, but do expect me to talk a lot. A lot . . .