I R Stubborn

As a taurean I’m often told that I’m too stubborn for my own good. I like to think of it as strong willed rather than stubborn… but that’s just me. I’m sure that there are folk who don’t agree with me.

I’m bringing this up for a couple of reasons. First, to coincide with an apology. I follow very many blogs, some of them belonging to you fine people who come here and read my words three times a week. I’m apologising because after my hospital stay I have fallen so behind in my reading of blog posts that at present my email contains in excess of 300 posts waiting to be read. I’m behind by a month and half. This means all of my comments on your words are a month and a half late, so to speak.

The stubborn part comes into play because it would be easy enough just to delete the backlog and stay up to date now. Its easy for me to read my emails these days because I can do it on my phone while I’m reading. So… why don’t I just cut my losses and just start reading from today’s date? Well… because I might miss something. I firmly believe that if I delete a bunch of posts, one, if not all of them, are guaranteed to have information in them that I want/need, or conversations that I want to be part of. That’s just Sod’s Law. So… even though my inbox continues to fill day after day after day, I am persisting in reading all of my delivered posts from oldest date to newest and leaving comments and/or likes as I see fit.

Stubborn? Oh yes.

The second point is more important however.

I feel that one has to have some level of stubbornness about them to be able to pursue the career of writing. You need that bull headed drive to keep you going when writer’s block, rejection letters and impossible scenes conspire to get you down. You have to cling to the knowledge that you are doing what is best for you and that one day you will get where you want to go. You have to keep on plugging at your work even though everything around you suggests you should give up. You need to be able to shove aside the niggling little voice that insists you could be doing something else and work at your craft harder and harder, again and again, over and over until you have have what you want. An agent… a completed manuscript… the perfect scene.

All of this takes a little bit of stubborn will, so, I think, if I have a bit of that in me so much the better!

What do you guys think? Have you ever been told you’re too stubborn, or that you’re too much of something else which, in fact, is a disguised blessing?

About Ileandra Young

I'm a thirty-*mumbles* year old (purple loving, cheese worshipping) author of fantasy, juggling a pair of beautiful twin boys with my burning desire to make up stories and write them all down. When I get the chance, I play games, listen to music, and in days long past I even ran a radio show. Though I occasionally write non-fiction, my heart lives in fantasy and my debut novel, Silk Over Razor Blades is now available through Amazon along with part two of the trilogy, Walking The Razor's Edge.
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9 Responses to I R Stubborn

  1. Jaxtasha says:

    For a long time I have pondered the ‘insult’ of being stubborn. For a great many years I cared far too much about what others thought of me and would agonise over every word that was said about me trying to work out if it was good or bad, and if it was bad how could I change it. So yes, I have been called stubborn most of my life.

    However, I think it is bandied around to mean lots of different things like you are pointing towards in your writing you are not stubborn but driven and determined which are not necessarily bad things at all. Or reading you back log of blog posts, you are committed and invested which are great things!

    Stubborn is supposed to mean refusing to follow an inevitable or undeniable truth. All to often, however, it gets used to mean refusing to accept someone else’s opinion of the truth, I take this more as a person who will not give in, or switch sides and allegiances, or give up their morals or standards. I genuinely think that stubborn, like a great many things is used incorrectly as an insult and usually it turns out to be a compliment.

    I don’t consider myself stubborn, I am however fiercely passionate about things I believe in, I am driven in my endeavours and I am committed to follow through my plans. That doesn’t mean I don’t/won’t change, adapt or admit I am wrong when faced with truth.


  2. Sally Edmans says:

    I’m stubborn, no doubt about it. If you want to see stubborn in its greatest light, I’m a prime example.

    10 years ago I had an accident. I went over the handlebars on a scooter, landed on my head and have since been discovered to have done severe damage to my spine and received some brain damage. In short, my life changed irreversibly that day. Since then my health has declined continually, leaving me with a compromised immune system, in constant severe pain throughout my entire body, barely able to read, and a shell of the person I was. On my worst days, I cannot stand up without another person to pull me to my feet and hold me upright. I crawl to the bathroom, then crawl back to bed, crying in agony the entire time. On my best days, I beam with pride when I realise I can put my own socks and pants on.

    Most people who meet me have no idea that any of this is going on under the surface, and people can know me for quite a long time before they even know there’s anything wrong with me. The reason for this is because I am stubborn. I am determined to get better. I am determined to get as much out of life as I possibly can. I am determined not to let my life become a haze of drugs and chemicals as western medicine attempts to repair a condition they don’t even understand yet.

    If I wasn’t so stubborn, I would have given up by now.


    • Exactly the sort of stubborn I admire. And a bit like Jax says; I don’t know that is stubborn in the traditional sense. More a drive and determination not to let things get on top of you and keep you down.
      If more people were like you a hell of a lot more would get done, that’s for sure.


      • Sally Edmans says:

        Hehe, it’s easy to sit on the outside and say it’s not stubborn in the traditional sense, but until you’ve seen me unable to stand up on my own but still determined to do everything for myself you just can’t see the true extent of my stubbornness.


        • You’re right of course. I’ll put my hand up and say that I have no real idea what you go through each morning, so only you are fully equipped to decide how you feel and what its like.
          Though from what you’ve described, I still have a deep respect for you and your stubbornness.


  3. Think of stubborn as strong-willed. I’m really behind in my comments and blog-reading too, and I don’t have newbie twins to take care of.


    • Lots of other ways to think about stubborn! Makes me feel a hell of a lot better.
      Email reading is the only thing I can do when up at nights with the kiddie winkles, so actually, I’m beginning to catch up now. Which is nice.


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