#NaNoWriMo 2015 – Day 25

Regained my flow as far as Dead And Alive is concerned. Good think really as it’s given me the push I need to go back and finishing editing the chunks I need to get done for Episode Three. It’s releasing soon and I’m behind schedule. That’ll learn me! But I’m now coming up with new plans for how I want Dead And Alive to work and where it can take me in future. These characters have so much potential and so much life and personality to explore . . . particularly Michael. So it’s going to be a great deal of fun working on slightly longer pieces when these first two (possibly three?) seasons are done.

I’m exhausted today. It’s been a busy week so far and I’m looking forward to tomorrow which, compared to the week so far, is a day off. I still have a lot to do, but at least I can do a lot of that sitting on my backside.


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#NaNoWriMo 2015 – Days 23 & 24

I’m flagging now. Can you tell? :-p

I’m not surprised, because two very significant things have happened in the past week:

  1. I finished writing my NaNo novel. So . . . anything else I write from this point forward is just gravy.
  2. Jessica Jones appeared on Netflix

Yeeeeah . . . that last one may not seem too important, but you don’t understand (or maybe you do?); Jessica Jones is almost as good as Daredevil and I can’t—CANNOT—stop until I’ve watched all 13 episodes.

I’m on episode eight right now, I believe. That means I still have a way to go before I get to the end. Then, and only then, will I be able to properly focus writing.

So yeah, sorry folks. Words are happening, but nowhere near as rapidly as they were at the start of the month.


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RS: I Haz Planz 23/11/15

Evening folks! Hope you enjoyed this morning’s guest post. Now we’re back to my usual smug, patting on the back phase. ;-)

Actions Over The Past Fortnight

~Create and complete five Smexxy Snippet covers
. . . no.
I got three down then kinda lost the will half way through. I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally wish I had the money to buy these covers like I did with all my others, but I just can’t. It’s so annoying. I’ll have to take it slow.

checking off feedback~Release ‘Slippers & Chains: Second Base’ on CreateSpace
Yep. Sorted! ^_^ Wheeeeeeeee! All up and selling as of November 21 (did you see the blog post?). So far, so good. Pretty much what I expected.

 Activities For This Fortnight

  1. Create and complete five Smexxy Snippet covers

Thoughts . . .

There. No excuse now. I have nothing else lined up that needs work, so it should be a simple thing to get these covers done. *fingers crossed*

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RS: The ‘D/s’ In #BDSM – Part Two – Guest Post: A Dominant’s Perspective

I figured it was finally time to get someone else chatting about BDSM. Someone in on the ground floor, so to speak.

Nick is a buddy of ours who currently enjoys a D/s relationship with his partner. I asked if he’d be willing to write up a little something about how he feels BDSM works within a relationship framework and he kindly sent me this.

It’s worth noting again, as I have many times in the past, that every relationship is different and works on its own unique levels. Despite that, there are similarities that I feel are worth mentioning, which is exactly why I’ve chosen to post this article now.

I hope you enjoy.

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I strongly believe that for any relationship to be successful there must be 3 things:

  1. Trust
  2. Communication
  3. A connection, or something in common

Everything else is a matter of degrees and is mostly optional.

So, besides some interesting hobbies, what separates a kink relationship from a vanilla one? Ultimately, a kink relationship requires significantly more of my three criteria in order to be successful. Kink encourages us to push our boundaries and find the limits of human experience and discover something more than what the regular world has to offer for us. Some people use pain, some use humiliation and degradation, others enjoy personifying an animal. However we choose to do it, the things we require of our partners are simple.

Regardless of what you are looking to achieve, trust is always a requirement and an awful lot of it. Except in very specific situations, there is an absolute trust in the person you with home you explore your kinks. If you cannot trust them, or if you distrust them, kink can become extremely dangerous; they need to know where your boundaries are, as well as their own. If you are working on finding your limits, trusting your partner becomes even more important. You have to trust them to stop when you need them to stop, to continue when you need them to continue, and to be there with you once it is over and you come back to the regular world.

With trust, you need to be able to communicate. You can trust your kink partner to the world’ s end, but if you cannot tell them how you feel, or cannot understand how they feel, you’re off to a rocky start. This includes not just talking about what’s happening, but how you feel about you deepest fears, and greatest highs. Kink evokes extremely powerful emotion, and sometimes you will never understand why. When your partner randomly starts laughing half way through flogging them, they might not have any more idea than you do why, but you need to know whether you should keep going or not. When your partner breaks down in tears two days after an event where they went higher than ever before in their life, simply being able to communicate that you are there can be very difficult. Both of these extremes can happen, and only being able to talk to your partner can help.

Arguably both the least and most important, is a connection with the person you’re with. Whether it’s love, lust, friendship, or a shared affinity for similar or matching kinks, having a connection with the person your with will make the whole journey and the ability to trust and communicate all work together. Having a connection with your partner isn’t technically required, but not having one can make situations jar, or feel wrong when otherwise they would be good.

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So there you have it. Notes from a man on the ground about how a kink relationship and/or one based on the BDSM lifestyle is no different to any other. The pillars required to hold the relationship stable are exactly the same as those expected anywhere else: trust, communication and a common ground.

Kinda makes BDSM that bit more homely and comfortable, doesn’t it?

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#NaNoWriMo 2015 – Day 22 – Validation!

Yeeeah, I could have done this on Friday but I forgot.

So . . . here are my validation shinies! ^_^

Oh, and of course . . .


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#NaNoWriMo 2015 – Day 21

I’m miles from home and yet still writing. ^_^

Not much, you understand, but I couldn’t let an hour long train journey go by without writing something down. :)

Not bad, right? :)

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RS: Slippers & Chains: Second Base – Out Now ^_^

I realise there hasn’t been much fanfare about this release. Not good, as I really should have been pushing to get some attention on this book. Alas, writing more stuff has slipped into the place of marketing and means that I’ve done very little to let people know this is coming.

But I’ll tell you guys, because it’s here and I’m proud of it!

Presenting, second novella in the Slippers & Chains series, Second Base!

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Fresh commitment. New house. Same old problems.

Daniel Scotney and Karen Owusu have taken their D/s relationship to ‘second base’ and decided to share a house together . . . let the mayhem commence?

Raven ShadowHawk’s second novella in the four-part Slippers & Chains series, explores what happens to a relationship—even a BDSM one—when all manner of skeletons are no longer allowed to stay in their respective closets.

Read as a stand alone, or after the first instalment, ‘Sugar Dust.’

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Head over to Amazon (click the pic) and pick up a paperback or ebook copy and put a smile on your face (and mine!).

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